You Can't Be Confident If You Can't Do This One Thing

Key Concepts:

• Confiding: Sharing your truth with someone you trust.
• Confidence: The ability to confide in yourself, trusting your own decisions and behaviors.
• Congruency: Alignment between words and actions; "walking the walk" after "talking the talk."
• Follow-through: Completing actions you've committed to yourself.

Main Points:

The core argument is that confidence stems from the ability to trust oneself, which is analogous to confiding in another person. The video draws a direct parallel: just as you confide in someone by sharing your truth because you trust them, you achieve confidence when you can confide in yourself, trusting your own decisions and behaviors.

Congruency and Action:

The video emphasizes that confidence isn't just about self-belief; it's about aligning words and actions. A confident person demonstrates congruency. This means that they don't just "talk the talk" (make promises or express intentions), but they also "walk the walk" (follow through with actions).

Follow-Through as the Key to Self-Trust:

The most crucial aspect of building confidence, according to the video, is follow-through. It means honoring the commitments you make to yourself. If you tell yourself you will do something, confidence arises from actually doing it. This consistent follow-through builds self-trust, which is the foundation of confidence.

Notable Quotes:

• "When you confide in someone it means you share with them your truth... because you can trust what's on the other side."
• "When you become someone with confidence it means you can confide in yourself and that you can trust your own decisions and behaviors."
• "You don't just talk the talk you walk the walk."

Synthesis/Conclusion:

The video presents a simple yet powerful model for understanding and building confidence. It argues that confidence is rooted in self-trust, which is cultivated through consistent follow-through on commitments made to oneself. By aligning words and actions (congruency), individuals can build a track record of reliability with themselves, leading to increased self-trust and, ultimately, confidence.