Key Concepts
Death, grief, journalism, human connection, empathy, gratitude, work-life balance, storytelling, perspective, loss, resilience, cultural attitudes towards death.
Covering Death as a Journalist
The speaker reflects on their experiences covering death as a journalist, starting with their initial discomfort and evolving into a deeper understanding of grief and human connection. They recount being advised to use Vicks VapoRub to block the smell of death while covering Typhoon Haiyan in the Philippines, but ultimately realizing the importance of confronting death directly. They contrast Western avoidance of death with more direct attitudes in Asia, recalling a funeral in Delhi where people openly grieved without flinching.
The Importance of Human Connection
The speaker shares an early experience covering the funeral of a firefighter named Bob, where a grieving friend of Bob's acknowledged the speaker with a smile and wave. This taught them the importance of being a human being first and a journalist second. This lesson became crucial during the Brussels terror attack in 2016.
Personal Loss and Professional Perspective
On March 22, 2016, while rushing to see their dying father, the speaker learned of the Brussels terror attack. This created a strange kinship with the grieving relatives of the victims, as the speaker was also about to lose a loved one. They felt united in a "strange club of grief." Despite their journalistic instincts, their boss advised them to focus on their family, highlighting the importance of work-life balance. The speaker also recounts receiving an email about the death of Rob Ford, the former mayor of Toronto, on the same day their father passed away.
Grief and Storytelling
The speaker describes the difficulty of receiving condolences after their father's death and how a friend suggested asking people for stories about their dad. This brought their father back to life and provided comfort. Examples include learning how their dad taught a friend to cook rice and discovering slides from a trip to Niagara Falls.
Lessons from Covering Death
The speaker shares how covering the death of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, taught them about racial inequality. They also recount covering Aretha Franklin's death, where fans celebrated her life through song. These experiences demonstrate how stories of death can be uplifting and inspiring.
The One Life Alliance and Gratitude
The speaker discusses interviewing a woman named Kia, who lost her husband and daughter in the Mumbai terror attacks. Kia created The One Life Alliance, which promotes honoring the sacredness of life through a 30-day pledge. The pledge involves focusing on small aspects of life, such as smiling more, slowing down, and practicing gratitude. The speaker found gratitude to be the most powerful, even on the day their father died, being thankful for family, his lack of suffering, and him being their dad.
Empathy and Inhaling Life Deeply
The speaker concludes with a story about interviewing the widow of a man killed by a shark on their honeymoon. The widow thanked the speaker for reminding her that her husband had seen all his friends and family just days before his death, providing immense comfort. The speaker emphasizes the importance of empathy, curiosity, thankfulness, and gratitude, concluding that it's better to "ditch the VapoRub and inhale it all in deeply."
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