How To Tell If She's FLIRTING (Using Science)

Key Concepts

Flirting initiation, body language cues (eye contact, feet direction), intentional cues (favors, opinions), dough eyes, siren eyes, hormonal influences (oxytocin, norepinephrine, dopamine, testosterone, estrogen), mirroring, micro-grooming, personal space, intimate space, texting analysis (emotional stage, we/I ratio, inside jokes).

Scenario 1: Acquaintance

• Unintentional Cues:
  • Eye Contact: Women initiate flirting through eye contact. Joe Navaro (former FBI agent and body language expert) states that when someone likes you, they scan your face: eye to eye, nose, mouth, throat, back to eyes.
  • Feet Direction: Navaro also suggests feet are more honest than the face. If a girl likes you, she'll point her feet in your direction, a subconscious sign of trust related to the lyic system and evolutionary survival instincts. Stretching one leg towards you is another variation.
• Intentional Cues:
  • Seeking Interaction: Similar to the Victorian handkerchief tactic, women might ask for favors or opinions to initiate conversation.
  • "Dough Eyes": Expressing innocence and vulnerability by tilting the head down and widening the eyes.
  • "Siren Eyes": Expressing sensuality and sex appeal by tilting the head slightly up and narrowing the eyes.

Scenario 2: Friends

• Hormonal Influences: Five hormones influence behavior when a girl likes you:
  • Oxytocin: Triggers mirroring. Real footage of a first date shows mirroring of gestures. To test, make a specific gesture (e.g., tilting your head) and see if she mirrors it.
  • Norepinephrine: Increases energy and euphoria, leading to more laughter.
  • Dopamine: Increases self-awareness and the urge to look better. Look for micro-grooming signs like fixing hair, adjusting clothes, or touching lips.
  • Testosterone: Can tighten facial muscles, making her seem slightly angrier.
  • Estrogen: Increases auditory communication, making her talk more than usual around you.
• Personal and Intimate Space: She will enter your personal and intimate space. Pay attention to her words. If she asks deeper questions about your goals, values, or even past relationships, she's likely interested. Superficial questions indicate politeness only.

Scenario 3: Texting

• Emotional and Mental Stage: Analyze the emotional and mental stage behind her texts, not just the messages themselves.
  • Good morning text: You're the first thing she thought of.
  • Double text: She's eager to talk.
  • "You'll never guess what happened": You're among the first she wants to share news with.
  • Contact only when she wants something: She's likely not interested romantically.
• We/I Ratio: When a girl likes you, she will use "we" more than "I," creating intimacy.
• Inside Jokes: Using inside jokes is another way to create intimacy.

Synthesis/Conclusion

Identifying whether a girl likes you involves observing a combination of unintentional body language cues, intentional actions, hormonal influences, and texting patterns. Analyzing eye contact, feet direction, mirroring, micro-grooming, personal space, and the emotional context of texts can provide valuable insights. However, even with initial attraction, a poor texting game can ruin the chances.